Baby Loss and Miscarriage: Gentle Memorial Options

If you're reading this after experiencing a miscarriage or the loss of a baby, we're so sorry for what you're going through. There's no right way to grieve this kind of loss, and there's no obligation to have any particular kind of memorial — this guide is simply here gently, for whenever and if you'd like it.

There is no "right" way to remember

Some families choose a small keepsake — a piece of jewellery, a tiny urn, or a memory box. Others prefer no physical memorial at all, and that is equally valid. Whatever feels right for you and your family is the right choice, without any expectation either way.

Gentle keepsake options, if this feels helpful

  • A small keepsake urn, sized appropriately if ashes are available.
  • A piece of jewellery that can be worn quietly, close to you.
  • A memory box, combining any keepsakes, cards, or mementos from the pregnancy.
  • Something separate from ashes entirely — a planted tree, a piece of jewellery with a birthstone for the due date or month, or a small ornament.

See our guide on urn sizing for a baby or infant if this is something you're considering.

Naming and acknowledging your baby

Many families find comfort in naming their baby, even after a very early loss, and having that name included on any keepsake chosen. There's no rule about when this is "appropriate" — it's entirely your decision.

Support is available

Please know that support is available whenever you need it. Red Nose Grief and Loss (1300 308 307) offers dedicated, compassionate support for Australian families experiencing miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss, at any stage of pregnancy or afterwards. Your GP can also connect you with grief counselling suited to your situation. You are not alone, and there is no timeline you need to follow.

When you're ready

Our team is here gently, without any pressure, whenever — if ever — you'd like to talk through options for a keepsake. Please reach out at your own pace.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is it normal to want a physical keepsake after a miscarriage?

Yes, many families find comfort in a small keepsake, while others prefer none at all — both are completely normal and valid responses.

Where can I find support after miscarriage or baby loss in Australia?

Red Nose Grief and Loss (1300 308 307) offers dedicated support for Australian families experiencing miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss. Your GP can also refer you to grief counselling.

Is there a right time to decide on a memorial after this kind of loss?

No, there is no timeline. Some families decide quickly, others take months or years, and some choose not to have a physical memorial at all — all are valid.

At Premium Urns, we help Australian families find a memorial that feels right, without any pressure. Explore our infant urns online, or get in touch with our team if you'd like a hand choosing.

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