Baby Urns for Ashes: A Gentle Style Guide

Choosing an urn for a baby or infant is one of the most difficult decisions a family can face, and there is no need to rush this choice. This gentle guide covers the sizing, styles, and considerations that may help, whenever you feel ready to look.

Sizing for infant urns

Infant urns are naturally much smaller than adult urns, generally holding under 1 litre. Because the exact volume can vary, many families choose an urn with some extra capacity, or hold off on a final decision about capacity until ashes have been returned — see our full guide on infant and child urns, choosing with sensitivity.

Common styles families find comforting

  • Soft, gentle colours — pale blues, pinks, creams, and pastels are widely chosen.
  • Angel and heart motifs — symbolic imagery that many families find comforting; see our guide on angel cremation urns.
  • Small teddy bear or plush-inspired shapes — a softer, gentler alternative to a traditional urn shape.
  • Simple, unadorned keepsakes — some families prefer something quiet and understated rather than decorative.

There is no timeline for this decision

Please know there is no requirement to choose quickly. Many families take whatever time they need, and some choose to keep a simple temporary container for a period before selecting a permanent urn. Whatever pace feels right for your family is the right pace.

Support is available

If you would find it helpful to talk with someone, your funeral director or a bereavement support service can offer guidance specific to your situation — please don't hesitate to reach out. Our team is also here if you have any questions about choosing an urn when you feel ready.

Involving siblings or grandparents gently

Some families find comfort in involving other close family members in this choice, in whatever way feels appropriate — this might mean a grandparent helping choose a colour, or simply keeping them informed. There's no right way to include others, and it's entirely your family's decision how much to share and when.

Frequently Asked Questions

How much capacity does an infant urn need?

Generally under 1 litre, though because the exact amount can vary, some families choose an urn with a little extra capacity or wait until ashes are returned before deciding.

Do we need to choose an urn quickly?

No, there is no timeline — many families take whatever time they need, and a simple temporary container can be kept for as long as necessary before a permanent choice is made.

What styles do families often choose for a baby's urn?

Soft, gentle colours, angel or heart motifs, and small, softly shaped designs are all commonly chosen, though a simple, unadorned keepsake is just as fitting a choice.

Should other family members be involved in this decision?

That's entirely your family's choice — some find comfort in involving siblings or grandparents in whatever way feels appropriate, and there's no right or wrong approach.

At Premium Urns, we help Australian families find a memorial that feels right, without any pressure. Explore our infant urns online, or get in touch with our team if you'd like a hand choosing.

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